Building Profitable Relationships with Individuals

It’s Easy for Me to Build Positive and Profitable Relationships with Individuals.

Paul J Meyer (1928-2009) – Author

Communication – the human connection – is the key to personal and career success. ~ Paul J. Meyer

A Turkish Proverb asserts that, “No road is long with good company.” I totally embrace that mantra. Positive and profitable relationships speak to persons living and working harmoniously together. This ensures enhancing the reality of others and ourselves. My multidimensional communication and interpersonal skills as a retired educator facilitated the honing of my penchant for creating and sustaining affirmative relationships. My building blocks for these relationships were my empathetic response to persons; my highly emulative work ethic; and my magnetic personality and impeccable decorum.

Being able to acknowledge individuals empathetically was one of my chief skills in developing connections. I have had extreme challenges dating back from childhood but had always had spiritual and professional mentors who motivated me on to extreme success. Additionally, I am gifted in remembering names and identifying with persons of all age groups. Consequently, I can effortlessly enter other people’s skin and walk around in it – understanding their issues and struggles; and offering healing suggestions. Some of my successful buffers to them were: “This too shall pass.”; “Just look on the bright side…” and “let’s look at the glass as half-full instead of half-empty”.   I was a comforter to the grieving and a calmer to the distressed, so my telephone was a late-night hotline. I became a believable icon by, as Alfred Adler puts it, “seeing with the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another, and feeling with the heart of another.”  My peers and superiors also found me credible because they had observed and experienced my highly exemplary diligence at the workplace.

 I totally agree with Martin Luther king Jr. that “If a man [or woman] is called to be a street sweeper, he [she] should sweep streets even as a Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He [she] should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, ‘Here lived a great street sweeper who did his [her] job well.”  This stance, as well as my personal culture, made me give of my best in social and work situations. Hence, I agree with Mike Rowe that, “Work ethic is important because, unlike intelligence, athleticism, charisma, or any other natural attribute, it’s a choice.”  I have been a visible, tried, and tested model of work ethic. My mantra is, “Never say anything is above your pay grade for you are only limiting yourself. … You should be bold; go above and beyond in all you do; for the right eye will see you at the right time.” For example, after my retirement from the government service I was employed at a private university. After three years the Management recommended me to be the Acting Chair of my Department for one semester because they considered me an excellent lecturer with strong skills sets for such a position. Subsequently, I served in that capacity for two consecutive years.  When I re-retired, I was invited back to the same position and at another time to teach; I respectfully declined the offers. Added to my esteemed work attitude, my magnetic personality and impeccable decorum made me an asset to the workplace.

A third essential ingredient that I use to forge my coveted bond among peers is the magnetic phenomenon of mine that constrains others to like my company. I am wisely enthusiastic, always polite, make time to bond with colleagues. I exude an essential intrinsic characteristic called joyfulness, despite any circumstances. Billy /Graham spoke for me when he asserted, “Joy cannot be pursued. It comes from within. It is a state of being. It does not depend on circumstances, but triumphs over circumstances. It produces a gentleness of spirit and a magnetic personality.” When my daughter died twenty-six years ago, a student of mine commended me on my strength to return to work after compassionate leave, “as if nothing had happened”. I let her into the secret of my resilience – “The joy of the Lord is my strength.” (Nehemiah 8:10). In spite of my broken heart, my mind kept me in the place of professional administration, mentoring the many of my students who needed to draw strength from me and I from them. Also, my small acts of kindness captured people’s hearts. My colleagues and students, my church brothers and sisters and others of my community members knew that they could continue to share a more deeply healthy relationship with me. When people were attracted to my magnetic personality they also benefited from my positive mental attitude. They learned by interacting with me that, as Thomas Jefferson put it, “Nothing can stop the man [woman] with the right mental attitude from achieving his [her] goal; nothing on earth can help the man [woman] with the wrong mental attitude.” Amazingly, I have past colleagues and students of decades ago in the Diaspora consulting with me on academic and sociocultural challenges because they recall their benefit from their association with me.  Happily, I can dialogue with them on current formal and informal global affairs. This is miraculous in my senior years, but, as Patricia Neale encourages, “A strong positive mental attitude will create more miracles than any wonder drug.”

I reiterate the relationship-building attributes of mine, namely, I demonstration of a selfless, considerate attitude towards others; comport myself professionally, and possess a compelling persona. We all do well to remember this: “People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.” So, I challenge you to tear down any walls of solitude and fortify your bridges towards positive lifelong relationships that will ensure a gratifying journey.

Lucinda “Lucindagrace” Peart – Contributor

Doing Good: On Being a Philanthropist in a Pandemic

The world is under the evil thumb or iron foot of the pandemic, SARS-CoV-2, Novel Corona Virus 2019/COVID-19. Its repercussions are innumerable, both affirmatively and unfavourably. Consequently, all citizens of every country are called upon to be philanthropic, particularly within the harsh economic space of many developing countries. It is, therefore, the distinctive season to adopt the vision and conviction of Maya Angelou to do good as she asserts, “I’m convinced of this: Good done anywhere is good done everywhere. For a change, start by speaking to people rather than walking by them like they’re stones that don’t matter. As long as you’re breathing, it’s never too late to do some good.” It is incumbent on each of us whose health is untouched by the virus to seek avenues of humanitarianism where we can walk around in other people’s skin and so help them. Useful assistance could include such means as focusing on assisting children in their educational pursuit; ensuring regular communication with the elderly who are mostly house-bound; and initiating and maintaining a support group for medical and public health personnel in my parish.

The multidimensional adverse effects of the COVID-19 have discombobulated the lives of all children, especially those who low-level income families. Added to the general hardships, many children have had to stay home. In Jamaica schools were out for seven (7) months until the official opening on October 5, 2020. Uncertainty pervades the system with the last-minute official decision to teach all children online. Homeschooling and Internet dependence have wrought havoc on the system for both educators and students. The generous compassionate community can supply technological devices, supply food to families and source counselors to ensure the emotional stability of parents and children in their homes. Island-wide, in Jamaica the need for broadband internet, computers, smartphones, and digital literacy is grave and imperative.

The home-school order has exposed a critical and tear-jerking reality: two-thirds of Jamaicans do not have access to the Internet, devices, and the skills and finances to obtain these necessities at home. As a talk-show host has put it, COVID has exposed the raw reality of the inequities in the Jamaican education system. We can be benevolent by networking with large corporate citizens to supply cash and devices to ensure that each child has a working laptop, tablet, or smart telephone. The Private Sector Organizations of Jamaica (PSOJ) would be happy for our donations to their PSOJ COVID-19 Jamaica Response Fund.  So too, the Nationwide News Network (NNN) with its computer drive to assist every child to have a computer. Consequently, there are open avenues for citizens to activate the philanthropy in them for the academic growth of Jamaica’s children.

The world is under the evil thumb or iron foot of the pandemic, SARS-CoV-2, Novel Corona Virus 2019/COVID-19. Its repercussions are innumerable, both affirmatively and unfavourably. Consequently, all citizens of every country are called upon to be philanthropic, particularly within the harsh economic space of many developing countries. It is, therefore, the distinctive season to adopt the vision and conviction of Maya Angelou to do good as she asserts, “I’m convinced of this: Good done anywhere is good done everywhere. For a change, start by speaking to people rather than walking by them like they’re stones that don’t matter. As long as you’re breathing, it’s never too late to do some good.” It is incumbent on each of us whose health is untouched by the virus to seek avenues of humanitarianism where we can walk around in other people’s skin and so help them. Useful assistance could include such means as focusing on assisting children in their educational pursuit; ensuring regular communication with the elderly who are mostly house-bound; and initiating and maintaining a support group for medical and public health personnel in my parish.

The multidimensional adverse effects of the COVID-19 have discombobulated the lives of all children, especially those who low-level income families. Added to the general hardships, many children have had to stay home. In Jamaica, schools were out for seven (7) months until the official opening on October 5, 2020. Uncertainty pervades the system with the last-minute official decision to teach all children online. Homeschooling and Internet dependence have wrought havoc on the system for both educators and students. The generous compassionate community can supply technological devices, supply food to families and source counselors to ensure the emotional stability of parents and children in their homes. Island-wide, in Jamaica the need for broadband internet, computers, smartphones, and digital literacy is grave and imperative.

The home-school order has exposed a critical and tear-jerking reality: two-thirds of Jamaicans do not have access to the Internet, devices, and the skills and finances to obtain these necessities at home. As a talk-show host has put it, COVID has exposed the raw reality of the inequities in the Jamaican education system. We can be benevolent by networking with large corporate citizens to supply cash and devices to ensure that each child has a working laptop, tablet, or smart telephone. The Private Sector Organizations of Jamaica (PSOJ) would be happy for our donations to their PSOJ COVID-19 Jamaica Response Fund.  So too, the Nationwide News Network (NNN) with its computer drive to assist every child to have a computer. Consequently, there are open avenues for citizens to activate the philanthropy in them for the academic growth of Jamaica’s children.

Children need special attention, but the elderly are also at the other end of the vulnerability spectrum. Therefore, I endorse the global philanthropist, Mahatma Gandhi’s assertion that “The true measure of any society can be found in how it treats its most vulnerable members.”  According to National Law Review Friday, March 27, 2020, “For many families, the COVID-19 pandemic will present ethical and moral dilemmas relative to the health, safety, and well-being of our elderly parents and grandparents, made more vulnerable because of chronic medical conditions and weakened immune systems.” 

Children need special attention, but the elderly are also at the other end of the vulnerability spectrum. Therefore, I endorse the global philanthropist, Mahatma Gandhi’s assertion that “The true measure of any society can be found in how it treats its most vulnerable members.”  According to National Law Review Friday, March 27, 2020, “For many families, the COVID-19 pandemic will present ethical and moral dilemmas relative to the health, safety, and well-being of our elderly parents and grandparents, made more vulnerable because of chronic medical conditions and weakened immune systems.” 

These quotes support the point for the need to ensure regular communication with the elderly whose specific protocol is to stay home except for emergency essential businesses. There is a panoply of ways for us to communicate with the elderly. These include such activities as a focus group/team to implement a programme for a group of seniors. This covers phone calls in which there are guarded discussions on local and world news. The elderly can do storytelling, jokes, and riddles to entertain and educate the younger, encouraging cultural enrichment. The team can prepare special meals at least once or twice a week, interspersed by virtual teas and tete-a-tetes for the seniors. At all times the safety protocols are to be observed so all “edutaining” activities can be done in chat groups and zoom meetings. We should always be ready to arrange transportation for the seniors from the group to do their businesses monthly and see to their COVID-19 safety. These creative gestures will give the elderly a sense of belonging and of being valued and will increase the release and flow of endorphin and dopamine hormones, resulting in a feeling of pleasure and holistic wellness. In this distressing pandemic season, the vulnerable needs all our love and magnanimity, but so too do the medical caregivers.

Amid the COVID-19 global outbreak, it’s likely to be a time of extreme exhaustion for those who work on the front lines of health care. Now more than ever, it’s important for health systems and health care organizations to create and ensure an infrastructure and resources to support physicians, nurses, and care team members. (https://www.ama-assn.org/delivering-care/public-health/caring-our-caregivers-during-covid-19) In Jamaica, it is no less traumatic as many authentic reports substantiate. As a humane community, therefore, we give our all-round support to our medical team – from the floor cleaner to the chief surgeon.  Foremost in our acts of kindness to our medical workers is to avoid getting the virus by our obedience to the anti- COVID-19 virus. We should remain at home as much as possible, avoiding crowds. Another helpful activity is our varied donations to the hospital staff, thereby enhancing their comfort. Contributions of money, food, masks, cleaning supplies, and sanitizers will make for a comfortable working, low-stress environment. Additionally, we can volunteer to run indispensable errands, such as picking up meals from their homes and restaurants. We may also arrange in our help team to cook meals and send them to the hospital. Relieving our medical workers and their family member from driving can be done by us and/or proxy. One exceptional feat can be the organization of blood donation drives in collaboration with the hospitals The Jamaica Observer Online has reported in April 2020 that the Blood Bank of Jamaica is reporting a significant shortage of blood supply across the island, exacerbated by the outbreak of COVID-19. Some heroic doctors were even donating blood for their patients. (jamaicaobserver.com).  This is a major de-escalator.  All these voluntary acts of kindness will lower the stress level of our medical workers and their support staff, ensuring better health for them, better service to their patients, and the lowering of the spread of the pandemic in Jamaica.

~Erma Bombeck speaks for me by declaring: “Volunteers are the only human beings on the face of the earth who reflect this nation’s compassion, unselfish caring, patience, and just plain loving one another.” This is affirmed by the Bible’s admonition: “And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.” (Hebrews 13:16); and by Angelou’s quote above: “As long as you’re breathing, it’s never too late to do some good.” Doing good by being a philanthropist in a pandemic benefits the donors as well as the beneficiaries of this goodness as we concentrate on being magnanimous in assisting to educate our children; making our elderly remain purposeful; find novel ways to help our medical and public health workers maintain their physical and emotional equilibrium in the healing process of our nation. Again we would be well advised by Maya Angelou in her video, titled, “Just Do Right” (posted below), if we want to achieve the philanthropic status of being benevolent at all times, especially during a pandemic.

 

Keep Uplifted and be Strong with God

Lamentations 3:22-23

The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.

36 Inspirational Bible Quotes That Will Encourage and Motivate You

We all experience seasons in life that can be discouraging and stressful. Whether you’re dealing with the loss of a job, the death of a loved one, or an overall confusion about where life is heading, reading through inspirational Bible verses is an excellent way to lift your spirits and gain a new perspective on a difficult situation. The word of God has a profound way of encouraging its readers to be strong and courageous in the midst of tumultuous circumstances. These inspirational quotes are a great starting point for morning prayers and hope-filled conversations. Use them as an ever-present reminder all things are possible with God, and His mercies are new every morning.